Phoebe was smooth as fuck
when you want to come out, but you’re not sure if you’re lesbian or bi and you don’t want to come out twice because you might fall in love with a guy a year later.
(submitted by foreverjustdreams)
THAT AWKWARD LESBIAN MOMENT
THAT AWKWARD LESBIAN MOMENT
when you’re the golden child in the family until you come out.
(submitted by girlwhoalwayssmiles27)
“'So I long for a day when women in government will simply be seen as people in government. But until then, I will work to make Pawnee, my wonderful hometown, as good as it can be.’ What do you think?”
The idea that bisexuals are automatically “straight passing” and have more privilege than gay people is rooted on a ton of assumptions:
- the assumption that all bi women are “femmes” and there are no “bi butches” or androgynous-presenting bi ladies
- the assumption that all bi men are manly or anyway not “stereotypically gay”
- the assumption that those of us who are more gender-conforming are like that not due of the same social pressure that gay and lesbian people feel but rather that we are just automatically more straight-presenting due to personal inclination
- the assumption that we’re always gonna choose a relationship that’s gonna be seen as straight by society over one that’s gonna be seen as gay, as if we can choose who we are attracted or fall in love with
- the assumption that most straight people give a shit if they think you are gay but then you tell them you’re bi and they’re gonna be like “my bad I was about to discriminate you but since you’re not gay you get a free pass!”. Newsflash: if someone is an homophobe they don’t give a shit if you are not “fully gay”, you’re still gonna be a *insert slur here* to them.
- all of this is rooted in the idea that we are “basically straight anyway”, which is a load of crap
SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A GIRL
SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A BOY
SUPPORT BISEXUAL BOYS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A GIRL
SUPPORT BISEXUAL BOYS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A BOY
SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS AND BOYS NO MATTER WHO THEY’VE DATED BECAUSE YOUR OPINION OF THEIR PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES DOESN’T DEFINE THEIR SEXUALITY
Anonymous asked:
I wasn't attracted to anyone at all until I was about fourteen, but my sister would accuse me of being a lesbian because I never talked about guys, and then she would make me tell her who I had a "crush" on. First girl I had a crush on was Demi lovato, then my sisters best friend, I've got a list. I'm definitely not attracted to guys as much, I still am though. The thing is is I can think someone's attractive, but I can't have a crush on them until I get to know them then it hits me like a train
bisexual--problems answered:
First off, wow your sister is… kind of awful. I hope she isn’t like that anymore.
But crushes are definitely weird! I’ve had crushes on people I barely knew and then other times after I’ve gotten to know them better.
I feel like what you’re getting at in the last sentence is what the cool kids call demisexual?? Which I personally think is a subset of sexuality and not one in and of itself (it doesn’t state what gender you’re attracted to at all so)
But that’s perfectly okay and normal not to be into someone until you get to know them, girl or guy or in between.
- Marcy
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